Good Bones

Building a life is hard work. There are missteps, miscalculations, and misunderstandings. Issues will arise for the entirety of your life, but it’s how you build that life that shows if you’ll withstand all the winds that are bound to blow. The key to construction is to have good blue prints, a good crew, and good bones…like a house.

Start with a strong foundation. Self-love is like concrete, sturdy and buildable. It sets the stage for all that comes after and is the deciding factor on whether you build your life for you or make your life a cookie cutter for someone else. Everything you build, with self-love as your backbone, is made to last. It makes room for improvement and if your foundation cracks, you have the tools to fix it. So, before you jump into this life take a moment to reflect on what you want it to look like. Make detailed blueprints and always have a backup plan backed by self-love.

Build yourself up from there, a house is steady when it has good studs. Surround yourself with people who will stand tall and strong when the wind blows. The structure may sway but that’s the leeway you need to bounce back.

The walls are your boundaries, don’t let hate or hurt cross them, and be mindful of the people you let past them. Some will love you deeply, others will scar your heart. And like the holes you make in the drywall when you’re spiraling out of control, scars can be hard to mend. Save yourself the hardship and only let the love in.

Make the guest room a place for your troubles, because they can’t stay forever and decorate with passion. Add rich colors that hold your head when you’ve had a long day. Decorate your life with texture and excitement. I hope you re-paint every once in a while, when you feel you need a change, and you never let your life get boring.

Your house like your life, should be built with room to grow. It can change, and it can adapt, don’t be afraid to make additions and add rooms.

Your life can be big and boisterous, it can take up space like a mansion in the hills. Or, it can be small and quiet, it can make room like a rancher on a dead-end street.

Whatever you want your life to look like, be sure to build it with good bones. A house with good bones won’t fall, and neither will you.

xS

The Here and Now

Most of us exist in a fast paced world, and if you think you don’t, I hope you’re right. The rat race tends to get the best of us even on our good days. We hardly ever take the chance to sit on our porch and breathe in the day, because we spend so much time preparing for tomorrow. This life has taught us that if you’re not working or moving, you’re not living…you’re not taking the right advantage of the time.

I came across a quote this week that explained this need humans have to always be looking toward the future, and worrying about the next step they need to take in building their lives…

“Most humans are never fully present in the now, because unconsciously they believe that the next moment must be more important than this one. But then you miss your whole life, which is never not now.” – Eckhart Tolle

In a world where the next thing is the best thing, and enough is never enough, can we find peace?

Yes.

It takes a while to understand that you only completely exist at one point in time, right now. Yesterday you were your past self, tomorrow you are your future self, but today you’re you.

If we accept that we fully exist in this moment, emotionally, physically, and spiritually, we can actually experience life in real-time rather than experience it in a serious of past memories and future dreams.

Laugh about it now…and later….but definitely now.

Today you can be everything you weren’t yesterday and everything you want to be tomorrow. All it takes is a change in perspective. There are so many past moments that we get hung up on, and so many future moments that we anticipate. Yesterday you were excited for today, so enjoy it…you don’t always have to be thinking about tomorrow.

0d8ddc8a6f642aaf84ffcc4551e485ffWe are so busy  filling our calendars that we forget to enjoy where we are. Sometimes it’s nice to just relax and watch the wind blow by. Be sure to stop and smell the sunflowers, wake up one day without a “to do” list. Go with the flow once in a while.

Obviously, you’ll never move forward if you never think ahead but, think about now too. Enjoy the goals you’ve accomplished, and the pursuit of new ones. Take in every moment of your life while you’re living it. Life is so beautiful it’s worth looking back on and remembering but, be sure to live in those moments while you’re in them.

Try not to tarnish what will soon be the past with the plans of the future. Don’t mix up time and life, you’ve got a whole lot of life… just not a whole lot of time. You won’t be able to remember it all, and you certainly won’t be able to prepare for it all…the only thing you can do is live it all. Make sure you embrace and enjoy right now, because it will join the memories of yesterday all too soon.

Never forget to cherish the journey, it’s just as important as the destination.

xS

11:11

Forty-nine minutes Till Midnight 

It’s that time…the wishing number on our clock. Eleven eleven I wish. Eleven eleven I wish I never met you. I recently found a song on apple music called “11:11” and the lyrics depict a distraught state of mind because the singer hates someone they once loved. It’s a song that many of us can instantly connect to but you can’t find peace in its words.

That song aside I think its true that people come into our lives for a purpose. Sometimes that purpose requires them to stay and teach you for the entirety of their time here on earth. Other times they will float into our lives and, what often will feel twice as quickly, fly right back out. While long-lasting friendships and relationships are extremely important to help us through this chaotic world many times we need people to be lessons in our lives. Wether we ruin the relationship ourselves or they hurt us in a way that changes us forever in each person, we can learn.

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In each person we can learn…if we choose to. It’s a matter of putting ourselves out there and communicating with each other. It’s not always going to be a pleasant conversation but at least we are talking. There will always be times when we regret some things we have said but, in the end the things we regret the most are the things we never got the chance to say.

While learning right from wrong through experiences is very important it is what we do with our new-found knowledge that really counts for us in the long run. We can let the loss of a person, in any matter, completely ruin us but we can’t forget that Rome was built on ruins. Like Rome we can build our lives up to be as beautiful and intricate as the city itself even after devastation. In each person we can also be the teacher. Choosing to have a positive impact on someone’s life can bring us not only closer to each other but, closer to that happiness we have all been pursuing.

So it’s eleven-eleven and my wish is that as I go through life I am always appreciative of the people in it. That I take the good with the bad and value every experience. That I take my relationships with others and grow with them, and when I don’t my wish is that I am able to understand why.

Put good energy into the world, and appreciate what the world gives you.

xS